People Can Change - An alternative, healing response to unwanted homosexual desires

Alan Medinger's Story: Reflections on 25 Years of Healing
Alan lived a secret double life for years before he took the classic "A.A. step" of totally surrendering his life to God. That surrender brought a dramatic change of heart. His attraction to men was miraculously de-eroticized, his sexual addiction was lifted, and he fell deeply in love with his wife. Still, he discovered he had much work to grow into full masculinity - a path that had been inadvertently derailed as a boy.

Book Excerpt: "Growth Into Manhood" by Alan Medinger

Ben Newman’s Story: A Change of Heart
Ben was in a complete state of crisis as he entered reparative therapy for homosexual sex addiction. His wife had caught him in yet another lie that was supposed to cover up his double life. He had “hit bottom.” Finding a therapist he could trust, and who had himself overcome unwanted same-sex attractions, Ben through himself into the deep emotional work he had been running from all his life. It changed his life.

Bob's Story: Placing It On the Altar
For 47 years, Bob struggled with unwanted homosexual attractions, alternating between years-long cycles of indulgence and white-knuckled resistance. Finally, he joined a support group and discovered from others who had been freed from homosexual desires the mistake he had been making: He had been trying to do it all himself. As millions of recovering alcoholics in AA had done before, Bob finally surrendered his life and will to God. Within weeks, Bob felt his homo-erotic desires lifted, and he began a new life of intimacy with and trust in God, his wife, and male friends.

Dan's Story: My Journey to Peace
After trying in vain for years to overcome his secret homosexual sex addiction, Dan finally "came out" enough to ask others for help. Work with a spiritual counselor, new friends, inner-child therapy, a Twelve Step group, the Evergreen support group and the New Warrior Training Adventure all brought together important pieces of healing. Today, Dan says the emptiness of past lust is filled with a far more satisfying sense of brotherhood and platonic but deep brotherly love.

David Matheson's Story: Breaking Free
Was the only way to find happiness to leave his faith, his young wife and their baby and join the gay community? David found reparative therapy instead, and discovered the truth about himself underlying his cravings for maleness.

Frank’s Story: Transformed
Frank was in two five-year relationships with other men. He built a home in Mexico with his second lover. He had finally found what he was looking for! But soon a nagging feeling started to surface that there was still something missing in his life. “I had everything, yet my soul seemed empty.” He found books on the underlying causes of homosexuality and the path to change, and they spoke powerfully to him. “I could not stop seeking out the truth. Every book had my story in it.” He began working with a reparative therapist, and never looked back. “I have become transformed.”

Jason Park's Story: Resolving the Conflict
Three weeks after meeting "Mr. Right," Jason was ready to leave his wife, children and life-long faith for a man he'd known for just days. In crisis, he found reparative therapy and a support group. As he faced the underlying emotional deficits in his life, he found his homo-erotic attractions and sexual compulsions decreased. When he found non-sexual, legitimate brotherhood with men, he found his emotional needs met and he "didn't need to go to a bookstore and find something to look at or go find some guy to connect with." Once he fulfilled the underlying emotional needs, the homosexual desires disappeared.